You did it wrong.

Let’s Learn. My friend didn’t like the way I played the “Two Words” game. They said:

You did it wrong.

Ouch! The words “You did it wrong.” hurt. My defense shields automatically popped up.

No, I didn’t. I sent you two words.

My friend tried to explain:

You made a phrase instead of two separate words. That’s not how the game is played.

I argued righteously.

It’s both two words and a phrase. My words last year were both two words and a phrase. I can be more sacred, AND I can say YES more often. It’s two words.

I made myself right and my friend wrong. They gave up and said:

I was just disappointed. It wasn’t what I was expecting.

In this moment of my friend’s disappointment, I had a choice. Would I rather be right, loving or learning? Spoiler Alert: I chose poorly.

Two words. One missed connection. Zero learning.

I had an opportunity for empathy and compassion for my friend’s feelings. Instead, I dug in and restated my case. I didn’t want to be wrong.

It has taken me years of training to be open to learning – especially when I am being too stubborn to be loving. I can’t learn anything new if I am not willing to lower my defense shields and be wrong. Ouch!

My friend was right:

I did it wrong. It’s not two words.

Sacred YES is one phrase with two words that can not be separated. I can’t say YES without sacred alignment. And I can’t be sacred without action.

Let’s Learn. Let’s be wrong together. Let’s drop our defense shields. And, let’s be more loving while we are learning.